Celebrate National Coming Out Day with PBT!
At Pittsburgh Ballet Theatre, we are committed to increasing equity, diversity and opportunity in the art of ballet. We believe that by bringing together people with diverse perspectives, histories and life experiences, we can create more vibrant experiences for everyone.
As part of this, PBT is proud to support National Coming Out Day on October 11th. This is the 25th year that this important day has been celebrated in the U.S. This annual LGBTQ awareness day celebrates people acknowledging – both publicly and privately – their authentic selves and embracing who they are. As part of National Coming Out Day, three PBT artists/staff members are sharing their coming out stories in hopes of inspiring others.
Kurtis Sprowls
Can you share your coming-out story with us?
I knew I was gay from a very young age. I struggled to really accept my authentic self, and live up to the expectations of my hometown environment. In my late teens, I moved to Pittsburgh and I was able to find community and acceptance in myself. I started to come out little by little and was met with many different reactions. Looking back at this time in my life, I am grateful for the people who have always shown me unconditional love, and for the patience I granted people who needed time to process. I believe my coming out stands as a testament to that it does get better.
Where have you discovered a supportive and inclusive community?
I have had the great fortune to discover many supportive and inclusive communities since coming out. I have found a core group of queer friends who love and support me, and make up my chosen family. I have also found support and community at Pittsburgh Ballet Theatre. At PBT, everyone can be themselves and showcase what is unique and special about who they are. Through the support that PBT offers, everyone can confidently grow and flourish.
What advice do you have for individuals struggling to come out?
My advice to someone who is struggling to come out is to trust your gut, take your time, and practice patience. There is no rush to come out, so take your time and space to really get to know your authentic self. Cultivating patience with yourself and others will not only bring you peace but will help strengthen the bonds and relationships you value. Coming out looks different for everyone, but you will never regret living authentically as your whole self. Always remember that you deserve love, acceptance, and respect just as much as anyone else.
As a member of the LGBTQ+ community, who or what inspires you?
As a member of the LGBTQ+ community, I am inspired by the generations of queer folks who came before me. I am incredibly lucky to have the life I have today because of their bravery and visibility.
Lish Reece
Can you share your coming-out story with us?
I really don’t have some grandiose movie story to share – it sort of just happened. I do want to say that I am blessed to have a loving and supportive family because I know that is not always the case.
Where have you discovered a supportive and inclusive community?
I have definitely discovered a supportive and inclusive community in the arts. I believe so many LGBTQ+ people are drawn to the arts even before they realize that they may be wondering about how they identify. The creative nature of our arts communities tends to value self expression. We are in the business of portraying others thoughts and feelings and words which hopefully creates a brave space for exploration. This environment also lends itself to further understanding of humans as a whole and the realization that we are all so different and wonderful and also so alike!
What advice do you have for individuals struggling to come out?
The biggest advice I have is to not feel pressured to come out, it is something that is deeply personal. Everyone’s experiences and situations are unique. Was coming out freeing to me? Absolutely it was. Yet you need to do what is right and safe for you. I believe the most important step is learning to love and appreciate yourself first because you are valid!
I grew up in a very small conservative town and I absolutely understand the difficulties that presents. I had already moved away when I finally acknowledged that being a part of the queer community was my truth. Thankfully the understanding and appreciation of people who identify as LGBTQ+ in those pockets of rural America are finally starting to progress.
If/when you decide to come out – just know that it is a continual process. I still find myself coming out to people that I haven’t met or haven’t seen since high school. Has it gotten easier and easier over the years? Completely yes. This is because I have become more and more comfortable with myself and also, thankfully, the world is evolving. It also certainly helps that I can just post a picture of myself and my partner to social media and I have “come out” just by living my life. My hope is someday “coming out” won’t even be a thing. We will all just be.
As a member of the LGBTQ+ community, who or what inspires you?
I know I have worked in the arts for the majority of my life, but I actually draw quite a bit of inspiration from LGBTQ+ athletes. Professional athletes have such a visible platform and many LGBTQ+ people have used that stage to inspire and educate the world. Even the uptick of LGBTQ+ commercials during certain sports broadcasts has increased as of late. That representation can have a profound effect on someone whose circumstances may not allow them to see LGBTQ+ people on a daily basis.
Matthew Griffin
Can you share your coming-out story with us?
I knew I was gay for a long time; but never thought I would come out. When I graduated high school and went to college, I realized a lot of the pressure I was feeling about coming out, I was putting on myself. So in college, where I knew I had a safe group of friends, and decided to just go for it and be my authentic self. Nobody batted an eye, so I brought my authentic self home with me on my first break. My family and hometown friends were unfaltering with their love and support.
Where have you discovered a supportive and inclusive community?
I’ve found a supportive community in my friends and my family. I’ve also found a supportive community in the arts. I am grateful to be able to work at PBT where I can bring my full self to work everyday.
What advice do you have for individuals struggling to come out?
Everyone’s journey is different. Give yourself the time you need and give yourself grace. Just know that there are people out there who love you and accept you for who you are.
As a member of the LGBTQ+ community, who or what inspires you?
Inspiration is everywhere for me. Music, books, concerts, shows, movies, television, and the culture are all things that inspire and inform me. I’m inspired by fearlessness and authenticity. I’m inspired by the generations of queer people before me who paved the way for us to live our lives so freely today.